January 12, 2013 premiered “The Marriage Tour.” It starts when Denise finally gets her boyfriend Brian to talk about marriage. After four years she feels it’s time to take their relationship to the next phase. The problem is Brian dpesn’t see anything wrong with the phase they’re in.
After exchanging their personal thoughts, and realizing that they’re not on the same page about getting married, Denise comes up with the idea to interact with other couples. They agrreed to hang with Carmen and Andre, newlyweds, Laura and Kyle, who have been married for seven years, and their divorce and single friend Eddie.
The marriage tour is supposed to make Brian see the importance of marriage. However, if after the tour he is not convinced, Denise promises never to ask him about marriage again. Brian agrees to do the tour, with his own plans to convince Denise that they don’t need to get married, because what they have is perfect the way it is.
Already, I found myself laughing at the similarities of my own journey and “The Marriage Tour.” I am always talking to married couples, singles and people who are in a relationship but don’t want marriage. However, instead of going on the tour to convince my boyfriend we should get married, I did the tour by myself, for myself, to see if I want to get married and why.
I questioned the unmarried. Surprisingly, I understand why some people could be convinced that marriage is just one way to do business. That it is okay to conduct business affairs in a different way, leaving the risk of marriage to those who want to live an outdated fairy tale. Then I spoke with the married. With answers like, “It was just time” and “I wanted to do the right thing”, it felt like those who dare to get married was because of some personal experience that can not be explained. Then others admitted that marriage gives security with finances and / or companionship. This left me with doubts about marriage.
Taking my own personal journey has not been as entertaining as watching the marriage tour. There were moments when I questioned why I can’t simply get married, because it is the next phase in my life. However; I feel marriage is too much of a commitment to take as just the next phase in life. There has to be more to it then pretty dresses, rings and papers. Deep down, it has to be more to it then, doing it because that is what others want for you. It has to be a personal choice that comes from your personal journey. I am not married, but something tells me that when the choice is personal and real, it can help during what I hear can be hard times.
Eventually, I came to a conclusion about marriage. In my soul-searching experience, I realized with every romantic relationship came titles and different levels of respect that men earned. There was, “just the friend”, although he was my friend he did not want to entertain my family or friends. Then it was the “boyfriend”, who elevated his game. He wanted to be around me and my family; but some how I never saw his family and friends. Then there is “the man” in my life that does not play games. I feel a different way about him. I know that he deserves a better title then the others. I find myself honoring him, with my actions, as though he is my husband. However, I realized that the world we live in that is just not enough. That is why I want to honor him with the title that comes with the respect, he has earned.
I wonder what conclusion Brian and Denise will come to, at the end of their marriage tour. Hmm, there are so many ways this story can end. He can end up wanting to get married, while Denise finds herself discouraged from the idea. Whatever happens, one thing is for sure, this web series The Marriage Tour will have people talking about their true thoughts on marriage. The next webisode is today, January 19, 2013 at http://www.themarriagetour.com
Will you watch?